Soul-o Time: Coming Home to Yourself

Have you ever wondered why being alone can feel heavy one day and deeply comforting the next? In my coaching practice, I’ve coined the term Soul-o Time (Soulo) to describe this duality, a small play on words that opens up a much greater awareness. Instead of “solo” as in lonely or disconnected, Soul-o Time invites a more intentional, nourishing way of being with yourself.

For many of us, being by ourselves can feel heavy. Alone time can quickly turn into feeling isolated or disconnected, or like something is missing. It can come with lower energy, restlessness, or the quiet belief that we should be doing more or sharing this moment with someone else. Many of us have learned to associate being alone with lacking something in our lives.

Reframe: It’s not about being separated from others, rather being deeply present with yourself

When we shift from thinking I am alone to I am with myself, something begins to soften. There is less pressure to fill the space and less urgency to distract ourselves. There is more room to breathe and simply be. Soul-o Time can alter your experience from feelings of loneliness to embracing peace and self-connection.

Soul-o Time is an invitation to slow down and listen inward. It’s an opportunity to recognize feelings without judgment. Take a moment to reflect:

“How am I really feeling right now?”

“What do I need at this moment?”

“What does my body sense at this moment?”

“Am I stuck feeling lonely, or am I willing to meet myself more deeply?”

Notice how these questions create space to pause and become curious about your own inner world. Simply becoming aware of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations helps retrain your brain.

Soul-o Time is not about fixing yourself

This time is not about fixing yourself. It’s about coming home to the part of you that has always been there and has always been whole. So much of life pulls our attention outward. Responsibilities, relationships, expectations, and constant stimulation can leave little space to do a self-check in. Soul-o Time brings our focus inward, inviting us to open our heart to presence and possibility. It overrides the monkey mind’s tendency to avoid all discomfort.

Soul-o Time looks different for everyone

Soul-o Time looks different for everyone. Sometimes it’s quiet, like sitting with a warm drink, journaling, or resting without distractions. Other times it might include movement, creativity, or time in nature. There is no right way to practice. What matters is the intention to be with yourself in a way that feels honest and gentle.

This shift in perspective is powerful in how peaceful it can feel. When we stop seeing alone time as negative, we stop resisting it. Instead of feeling empty, the space begins to feel full. We start to notice the depth, wisdom, and tenderness that are already present within us.

When you trust yourself, you are free

Soul-o Time also allows us to soften. Life has a way of making us tense and guarded without us realizing it. We learn to push through and hold ourselves together. When we spend time listening to our heart and soul, and taking aligned action, that tension can ease. We remember that it is safe to be alone because we trust ourselves with this sacred time.

Over time, this practice helps us reconnect with our wholeness and our true nature. We may feel more grounded, more at ease, and more comfortable in our own presence. From that place, our connections with others often feel more genuine as well.

Soul-o Time is not about pulling away from life, but about meeting life from a fuller and more connected place. When you are rooted in yourself, you naturally show up with more clarity, compassion, and trust.

The Pause and Shift: Your Superpower

Associating alone time (Solo time) with loneliness is a natural default setting for many. We have the power to shift out of this state by creating space to pause, reflect and implement practices more connected with our hearts and souls.

I invite you to explore the idea of Soul-o Time for yourself. I’d love to hear about your experience.

Live Life Open Hearted.

Love, Suzi 🩷